Lets Talk About Players and Sluts!

Warning! Do not see this as a sexist note! This is merely a matter of opinion on terms that have been around since we were born and a mere synopsis on said terms. This is not a generalization of females or males. This is merely observation. Thank you/

So, I'm watching the new season of The Real World the other day, with no shame I might add. This guy in the house just became single and has started seeing new girls. He goes on a bunch of dates and brings girls back to the house over the course of what seemed like a week or so. In predictable Real World fashion, the girl in the house who obviously likes him starts hating on him; "He's just a player..." is the gist of what she says....Keep in mind, this guy is not fucking any of these girls, he's just going on little wimpy dates...

 

Now, obviously, the roommate is jealous and feels ignored but, beyond that, it got me thinking about the term "player", as well as the word "slut", and how these words get thrown around and misused on a regular basis.

 

The term "player" comes from how pimps used to refer to themselves, so, in a way, it was a positive title. If you were a "player" you were a pimp but in the literal sense of selling women's vaginas to other men. As that word trickled down into normal, non-pimp, society it took a new form; it would refer to a guy who got a lot of pussy. Basically, if a man called another man a "player", not only was it complimentary, it was a recognition of higher status where females were concerned.

Then, the word took a negative connotation when women started using it as a way to describe men with loose morals in regards to where they stick their penises. Where we stand today, for the most part, is that this is a word to describe a male slut. I think we need to take it back.

The thing is, not all guys who fuck tons of girls are players some are just really handsome, some are really charming, and some have that weird thing that, for some reason, reminds multiple girls of their dads. Yup, some guys just get lots of pussy, good old honest pussy. No lying, no trickery, and no mind games. To me, a player is the guy who will say anything to a girl to get inside her, like the guy who drops the premature "I love you" on a girl who is simply glad to hear it, regardless of if she feels the same way or not.

"Players" are all about getting what they want with no scruples, they say what they think you wanna hear and really have no regard for anything but themselves. We all know players but the fact is, I know way more guys who just get lots of ass. So quit hating on a guy simply cause he's following his natural instinct to find a warm hole to put his baby making stick inside (caveman style). As long as there's no games being played and he's truthful, it's really just nature at work.

 

Whether or not he calls you back, that's another story.

Now the word "slut" has never had an even remotely positive connotation. It's a simple word you could say to the most virginal girl that, for some reason, still might hurt a little. I'm sure most girls have been called  a "slut" whether it was to their face, or behind their back, or, as in most cases, undeservedly. However, this is where it gets a little slippery...where defining a "player" is fairly black and white, how do you define a "slut"?

Female players certainly exist. They lie to get what they want although, it's usually not an awesome boning session, but what is a "slut"? First off, I see "slut" not so much as a type of person, as it is a behavior people have at times, kinda like the same way christian lunatics look at gayness. To me, being slutty is when girls do sexual things for the wrong reasons. If you're fucking a guy cause you're lonely and need someone to cuddle with, you're being a slut. If you're fucking a guy cause his friend, who you actually like, dissed you, you're being a slut. If you're fucking a guy cause he has cocaine, you're being a huge slut. It's a funny/not-so-funny reaction that girls have to rejection, insecurity, and loneliness.

 

Sure, guys do similar shit. I certainly know plenty of guys who have been down that road and hooked up with girls they shouldn't have but the difference is, they was still down to have sex. Did they like the girls? Not really. Did they wanna have sex with them? Totally. It's not like they did it to spite themselves Truth be told, once the ball is rolling, regardless of where a guys head is at, it's usually good to go. But for these girls who have slutty moments, they will literally just lay there through sex and tolerate it, even though they'd most likely rather be watching Gossip Girl at home eating fiddle faddle.

(Note: I do think a lot of girls who love having sex would rather do those things as well.)

The most common debate about this is "How come if a guy sleeps with a bunch of girls, he's the man, but if a girl does the same thing, she's a whore!?"

Well, it's simple; Women hold the key. If it were up to men, everyone would fuck everyone all the time, it would be vaginal anarchy. Thusly, women control the rations. Some are more liberal then others and some are Scrooge Mccunt. It's no secret that sex is a more emotional thing to girls then it is to guys. Men can have sex while eating and watching tv and still manage to blow a load. So, because of this emotional connection garnered from sex, it carries more weight for a woman. To actively be a slut is not in their character. Sure, wanting sex is, but women are obviously much pickier when it comes to choosing a partner (thank god for that). For men, the sluttiness is as built in as liking tits.

I think what I'm saying is, to truly be a slut, you have to apply yourself...in a slut like manor. This means throwing yourself at guys and pretty much demeaning yourself with no regard for your self esteem. But like I said before, there's a big difference between the girl who's fucked 80 guys cause she loves sex and the girl who's fucked 80 guys and has hated every moment of it. One of them gets a high five from me and the other sucks at life.

Basically, the only reason people should be having sex is because they want to. If insecurity or ulterior motives come into play, it's all fucked up.the beauty of this is that the "players" seem to have a keen radar for girls being sluts.

 

So it all works out. The players get what they want and the sluts fill that tiny void in their heart for that moment.

 

Everyone wins!